Lessons of life.

This rare conversation between swami Vivekananda and his Guru Sri Ramkarishna Paramahamsar  reached me as a mail forward. The conversation sure will answer so many queries that run through your mind. I got mine.

So go ahead and read……

vivekSwami Vivekananda:- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.

Swami Vivekananda:- Why has life become complicated now?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Stop analyzing life.. It makes it complicated. Just live it.

Swami Vivekananda:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

Swami Vivekananda:- Why do good people always suffer?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer. With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

Swami Vivekananda:- You mean to say such experience is useful?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Swami Vivekananda:- Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

Swami Vivekananda:- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Swami Vivekananda:- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Swami Vivekananda:- What surprises you about people?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- When they suffer they ask, “why me?” When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”

Swami Vivekananda:- How can I get the best out of life?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

Swami Vivekananda:- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Let me thank the sender of this precious mail.                                        “Thankyou my friend.”

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Ma I love you

When i was surfing the net yesterday I stumbled upon this post of my friend Mrs. RanjaniNarayanan. With her kind permission Iam posting this article here. Iam sure readers will be moved as Iam.
Thankyou Ranjani for the article.
Ranjani Narayanan says,
I got this from an email forward:
When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.
You thanked her by running away when she called.
When you were 3, she made all your meals with love.
You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.
When you were 4, she gave you some crayons.
You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.
When you were 5, she dressed you for the holidays.
You thanked her by plopping into the nearest puddle.

When you were 6, she walked you to school.
You thanked her by screaming, “I’M NOT GOING!”

When you were 7, she bought you a baseball.
You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbour’s window.

When you were 8, she handed you an ice cream.
You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9, she paid for piano lessons.
You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10, she drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastic to
One birthday party after another.
You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11, she took you and your friends to the movies.
You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

When you were 12, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

When you were 13, she suggested a haircut.
You thanked by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.
You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug.
You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to drive her car.
You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.
You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your school graduation.
You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus, carried your bags.
You thanked by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn’t be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing any one.
You thanked by saying “It’s none of your business”.

When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.
You thanked her by saying “I don’t want to be like you”.

When you were 22, she hugged at your college graduation.
You thanked her by asking whether she could sponsor for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.
You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24, she met your fiancé’ and asked your plans for the future.
You thanked by glaring and growling, “Muuhh-there, please!”.

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you.
You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby. 
You thanked her by telling her, “Things are different now.”

When you were 40, she called you to remind you of a relative’s birthday.
You thanked her by saying that you were “really busy right now.”

When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.
You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then, one day, she quietly died.
And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on YOUR HEART.


smoke your way to heaven



As usual, I was sipping my early morning coffee, while my eyes were wandering through the daily newspaper . Picture of a little girl seeking alms caught my attention. i started reading the news accompanying the picture. It is about a little girl aged about 12  seeking alms in signal junctions.Let me narrate .

When the signal turned to red, the new  glittering red car came to a screeching stop. Immediately, from somewhere this girl aged 12 rushed towards the car with full hopes that people inside the car have a charitable attitude.

She knocked the glass window.. The car owner irritated, brought down the window  . The cigarette  smoke as though waiting to get freedom,  escaped through the window. The little girl’s eyes scanned  the car. The cigarette between the fingers of the owner and a beautiful girl of the same age as hers , in the back seat did not escape her eyes.

Now, the  girl started pleading the car owner not for alms ,but said,” Sir, even if you don’t give me alms it is O.K. But Please don’t give your beautiful daughter a life as mine. Though I don’t belong to a rich family, we did lead a decent life as long as my dad was alive. But because of this smoking habit he  died  leaving us , only to beg for food.”  With these words, she immediately found her way to the next car.

The car owner was speechless.

The startling truth slammed the car owner. Do you think, he will ever touch the cigarette buds with his hands?

After reading this I started to think about this evil habit smoking. I have seen so many people letting out swirls of smoke .

I always used to wonder what makes people smoke? Some say, it gives them pleasure,   it relieves them from stress. And so on…..

The pathetic situation now is  even women in India have started the smoking habit. Some say, these days  it is inevitable and so they started smoking.

Oh! If you have a will to avoid smoking, you can always find a way to move away from that. where there is a will there will be a way.

If they really know how bad it  affects your health , smokers will just hate cigarettes .A recent study says smoking causes even lung cancer.

I would like to share the hardships a celibrity faced , in his sixties, for smoking in his yesteryears.

He says that even after knowing that nicotine in cigarettes is sure to affect the nervous system, I said to myself ” Oh! This alert is not for me. My nervous system is not going to be affected. Nicotene will not cause any harm to my lungs .”  and continued with my smoking habit.”

After some years , suddenly  it dawned on him that he should quit smoking . And so he did. For ten years everything went fine. But his yesteryear mistakes did not allow him to lead a peaceful and a healthy life when he was on the threshold of old age. Yes, blocks started developing in his heart, not once  and  he had to undergo  two bye passes. The doctors said all this was due to his early age smoking habit. But he somehow  saw through the game.

But that was not all the gift the cigarette gave. Though he moved away from this evil habit , the effects of forgotten habit started to tell on him. Sometimes as we are bashed more and more   when we are weak, this habit also started to give more and more trouble in his sixties when the body was weak and  started to show signs of aging.

Under the able guidance of his Guru , this person was  doing yoga, doing regular walking exercise, practising  Pranayama ……etc……

But, the lungs did not forget the cigarettes. They had collected and stored  the nicotene which he sent inside during his young age. This stored nicotene started  to show its presence , in his sixties. They all turned into flum and prevented the lungs from doing their job.

Now this sure he says caused him great trouble. There was no pain, no fever, no other trouble . agreed. But pulling in oxygen and pushing out Carbondioxide was a Herculean task. When breathing went unnoticed for everyone  he had to struggle to do this.

He says , there were permanently two or three oxygen cylinders at home.Without Oxygen cylinders support , he could not  stay even for a few minutes. Obviously, eating was another task for him for he has to eat only removing Oxygen support. Think of talking then…..

With all these struggles to breathe he says, he was also worried about his teenaged children’s future.  He was terribly sick and struggled to breathe.  Not only he struggled to breathe his  family suffocated ,of worries over his health.

Slowly and slowly he recovered.  Life had taught him a lesson about cigarettes , but in a  hardest way.  He also adds to his writing that youngsters should stay away from this habit.

Will smokers listen to his words or learn a lesson from his life.?Will they quit smoking?

Smart ones will learn from others mistakes . Will they?

What flashed in me was , If a person decides to light his cigarette, he is not smoking the cigarette, he is smoking away  his family’s , in particular his children’s health, wealth and prosperity.

Is that not true?



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Beauty of judgement

Some years back, one day

Looking at her younger  brother, my little  daughter asked, ” why can’t this girl be our mom? ”

Curious to know what was going on, I peeped into the room where my two little ones were playing . They had a weekly magazine in their hand. My little daughter was pointing to a Kollywood actress and was waiting approval from her little brother.

My son, simply nodded and approved his sister’s choice.

What are they going to do now? I eagerly awaited their next action.( they did not notice me listening to them)

Then both of them ran towards their dad sitting in the hall with his face buried inside the daily paper.

I followed them silently.

” Dad” shouted both in chorus.

Their dad peeped outside from the  daily looked towards them and asked ,” what? ”

” Dad, Look at this aunty in this photo. She is looking so beautiful and prettier than our mom.” And stopped.

” So……..” My husband continued…..

” Why don’t we make this aunty,  our mom? ”

I was anxious to know my husband’s reaction to this question.

First he bursted into a big laughter .then he said,” But why ? Your mom also looks good. ”

” No. Not this much dad. Look at this aunty. Look at her hair. Her dress, her makeup…..her lipstick…..She is really good. ” with a glow in her eyes my daughter replied.

Though we enjoyed the moment, it did send us a message as to how we should bring up the kids. Thereafter, whenever opportunity arose, I never refrained from driving into them the message,” Looks alone cannot be a deciding factor for judging a person. At times, it can also be deceptive .”

And, now I can proudly say that I had done my job.

I had finished my job, but some others have not finished. Yes, Iam  talking about the persons who hurl abuses at people , ridiculing them  for their looks.

When will they stop?No. They will not.  I could point one . All of us watch TV.. This effective  media runs advertisements  that using a cream, soap, powder enhances your physical beauty and a girl with physical beauty wins an interview.This gives a feeling that  her character, attitude, confidence level, her education…… everything will be  brushed under the carpet  and her physical beauty alone is important . This is  an abuse for one who fails the  interview.

What made them think that way?. Something pleasant to our eyes make us happy.True. It makes us even say ” wow “. But if the girl exhibits courage and confidence and lacks the looks ,will she not succeed. ?  If she is kind enough without looks will she not be appreciated. Questions like this que up in my mind. I don’t find an answer.

Iam reminded of  beauty tips  from a Hollywood actress . Many of us are aware of the famous super duper hit  film,” My Fair Lady.” The movie’s heroine Ms. Audrey Hepburn gives her beauty tips. You are in for a surprise if you read it. Here it is,


Let us judge people  based not  on their physical appearance , but giving due weightage to  their confidence levels,  for their attitudes, for their knowledge and other virtues. That will be a beautiful judgement. I know you will agree with me.

Let us also remember that if someone ridicules us for our looks, we can be assured that  we  possess  virtues  which they don’t have. Trust me. It is true.


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