A Pearl’s Suicide Note!

Some time back I read a   beautiful Tamil poetry .

I thought of sharing the substance of that ….. which is really interesting…..



Here it goes like this:

 A beautiful girl comes to meet her lover . She is beautifully dressed up and also she wears a pearl nose ring which hangs from the tip of nose . It is an antique jewel and in Tamil it is called “Nathu”. She is waiting to meet her  man.

But he is a bit late . This makes the girl to go red with rage. 

 The lover arrives , but the girl refuses even to smile at him.The man tries his best, to soften his lady love. but in vain.

 This man also happens to be a poet. He starts describing the beauty of the girl.

In his ecstasic and romantic mood he exclaims ,” My love! You are a smiling beauty. Why don’t you smile now?

The girl did not budge for this. So the man goes on…..

“Dear, I know why you are not smiling?”

The girl looks at her man in curiosity.

After a little pause , as though to raise the girl’s curiosity , he continues with a smile…

”Because when you smile , my heart misses a beat. You don’t want my heart to jump.Right?”

The lady love, saturated by her lover’s sweet nothings, did not fall for this.

So he says,” You think I am just flattering you. But I happened to read the suicide note.”.’

Now the alarmed girl literally shouts ” Suicide  note…..of whom? “

He pulls out a paper from his pocket and reads.The suicide note goes like this: 

Dear All,

Normally when poets describe women’s teeth they compare the teeth with a glowing pearl.

But this lover in his   romantic mood said,” My Lady love,Pearls are shunning away looking at your smile. Your teeth glow more than the pearl.”

The insult which I went through by the above words knew no bounds.Not able to stand this insult, I hang myself to death in front of the teeth, with which Iam compared to..

I hereby hold the poetic lover, his lady love and the glowing teeth to be totally responsible for my hanging.

Hoping to get my due respect atleast in Heaven , I leave this damn world.

See you all in my next birth,

(the unfortunate)Pearl.

Reading out the Pearl’s suicide note, the man lovingly clings the ‘nathu’ of his lady love.

The girl tried her utmost best to hide her blushing. But could not …..

Now…… , do we have any business to stand here?

Let us leave them alone. 

You made me fly !

Mothers_day_flowers-6Yesterday I happened to see an ad in between a programme. No…No… Let me put it this way. If I say “I watched a programme inbetween advertisements”, then, that will be more apt.

The ad was about a health drink . Therein a mother was taking her son to school. As she walks, she asks her son to put on his woolen scarf, then the woolen cap and  then after a few seconds, she says ” oh! It is very cold. Wear on your sweaters ” and so on…. The scene also shows another boy walking freely without any extra fittings, indicating not a very cold day. The ad  advises mothers ” May your child face rough weather. Only then, he will get immune to it.” And ofcourse the campaign is for their health drink

Though it is an ad, it high lights a point that children should be exposed to rough weather to know to handle it. Let us ignore the literal meaning of the sentence and rather go deep into it.

As mothers we care for our children and protect them.Good. We should do.Because we love them to the moon and back.

There are also mothers,  who are  over protective. They never leave the child alone. This is also out of sheer love and affection . But in their anxiety , they fail to realise, that they  had slipped into the category of Chopper moms.

Chopper moms ……who are they? I can hear you asking.

They are like choppers , always flying above their son or daughter, hovering over them , seeing what they do, be it school or home. Ofcourse…. only to take care of them and give them all the timely help .  And also to help their sons in taking decisions.

. Till their teens these mothers can hover over them and take care .

After that … what? The child entering into adulthood,  will be left all alone suddenly, to fend for themselves. Will it work for them then.? They might feel absolutely insecure.

We in our teens did not face this ” lost in the forest ” syndrome. Because many of us  were brought up in a joint family and also our parents had more than one  child to take care of.. They neither had the time nor  a fat purse to pamper the children.That does not mean they cared less for their children. I would say that their bringing up had very little flaws or even no flaws at all. You would agree with me if I say that we are living examples of their flawless grooming..

But now….  thanks to the nuclear family system, which had made every child as descendants from moon.Their wishes turn into reality in the wink of an eyelid. Thanks to the economy which had made it possible. The result is , most children are not exposed  to  stark realities, failures and disappointments even in play .

“So you ask me to just throw away my son without protecting him? ” I can visualise some  mothers going red with anger.

I can only say,” Mom!You have misunderstood me . As mothers we need to take care of our child. At the same time, we should also take care that we don’t transform ourselves into chopper moms.”

But, all the same , If you prefer to be a chopper, be so.

But as a chopper you might come across eagles and their homes in tall trees. Don’t  forget to step into their homes.  Step in and meet  the mom of the home.

There is a lot to learn from them. Eagles build nests on tall trees and lay eggs there. The nests, eagle builds is very soft .After hatching, like every other mother, eagle mom also  takes care of her babies.  She feeds them and  cares for them, be it  rain or shine.
But all this care…. for how long do you think?

When the eaglets are ready to fly eagle mom starts her teaching process. First she removes all the soft twigs from the nest and makes the nest  pricky. This is the first step where in mom exposes her baby to the rough side of life.

“Mommy ! Thorns are pricking me. Please make the bed soft. “the eaglet  cries.

“Baby.. If it is pricky , why don’t you go out and fly?”Mom says.

Will the eaglet  listen ? Will he ever leave the security of the cosy home?

No…absolutely not.

But the mom does not stop there.

Slowly, she pushes her baby to the edge of the nest with her wings.

The eaglet  looks out at the vast outside world .

And screams,” Ohooo………Mom…Mom…. Don’t push me outside. The world outside scares me a lot mommy. It is windy too. Please….Please… mommy …. I shall not be naughty anymore. ”  and begs to get back into the nest. The mom without any sympathy pushes the baby again to the edge.

Does she hate her young one? No, She teaches her young one, what he should learn.

Now, the eaglet slips out of the nest , falling from a great height screaming ,” HO…Ho….Iam falling Mom…….my.” The Survival Instinct makes the baby to flatter his wings.

Eaglet tries , but could not.

True. Nothing could be achieved at the first attempt. When the baby is about to fall down, eagle mom flies from somewhere and catches her child . She then takes him back to the nest for rest.

The eaglet  thinks,” Wow! I have got the worlds best mom. She is not going to drive me out of the nest. I can be safe here. My mom will take care of me. She loves me.” And shouts at his mom ,” I love you too mommy.”
And heaves a sigh of relief.

This relief will not last long. Again  eagle mom pushes the eaglet outside the nest. Now again the eaglet, out of fear of dying , opens its wings to flatter and fly. But lo!  After a few flatters, he loses the strength of the wings and begins to fall down. Immediately mom rushes from nowhere and carries the child to safety.

This kind of exercise is given by the mom to the eaglet many times till the baby’s wings gains strength and masters the art of flying.

Soon,  eaglet could be seen screaming in excitement, on  scaling great heights .

He screams,” Thankyou mom! You made me fly! ”

Wow! What an achievement both for the eagle and the eaglet!

Just imagine, if only, the eagle mom thinks that what she had undergone as a child, should not be experienced by her baby too, what could have happened?
The eaglet will have to lie inside the nest and get rotten.

Eagles pose a majestic appearance.  True.

But, how do they gain this majesty?

The majesty of Eagles, lies in their confidence and courage. The eagle mom knows  this when bringing up her child. She knows that there are “No gains without pains.”

What a fore sight!

Now coming back to chopper moms…..

On returning form eagles home, Chopper moms also, would have got an insight. I hear one of them murmuring,”Let me abondon my chopper. My  child should sail smoothly through the rough and tough tides , ( if any )  in later life. Let me prepare him for that.”

That’s it.
Happy Mothers day!

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Sangam Love-I


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Red roses and gift boxes in the hands of youngsters caught my attention. I said ,” What a strange coincidence! So many people have birthdays on the same day.”

My friend walking beside me gave a hearty laugh and said, ” Don’t you know today is Feb 14th ,Valentine’s Day. ” I then replied,” Oh! Yes. I forgot. Of course some few years back February 14th went like any other day in our country(India). But now, the day is making a great fuss among the youngsters. May be it is one of the marketing techniques or “aping the west” which makes this day an important one.”

My friend immediately said,” I have been your friend for a very long time. I never knew that you had a hate relationship with love.”

” What gave you this impression about me? I love being loved and ofcourse  I love my family .” I retorted back

” But then why are you against Valentine’s day?” my friend asked again.

“I  don’t hate Valentine’s day.  I just said that in our part of the globe ,everyday is a Valentine’s day. Why should we celeberate love on one single day alone?”

“Do you mean to say that lovers should be exchanging gifts and roses on a daily basis.”

“No. Again you had mistaken me. what Iam trying to say is that love should be exchanged between the lovers every moment . When love gets shared , these gifts become superficial”

” But this is a just a way of expressing their love.”

” May be. But in our culture there is no need for a day like this. Everyday is a Valentine’s day for couples.’

But shall we stop this argument here.?

Iam reminded of aTamil Sangam poem which we learned in our college days. What a casual outlook of love by the poet ! He talks about the love between a stag and a doe. How do they express their love?

Read how it goes.

There was a severe drought in a place where the deer couple were living. On a sunny day both of them went in search of green pasture to graze. But drought had already grazed them all. Having travelled a long distance they felt thirsty. But no water in sight.

After some time they came across a small pool of water, but not enough to quench both . Stag wanted his doe love to drink and doe thought the other way. So both of them went to the pool and put in their mouth there.

Time went by. Stag pretended to drink the water, so that doe his lover would quench her  thirst. The poet  then finishes the poem saying, it is but natural that lovers behave like this,

The poem ends here.Is that not a thought provoking poem where in the poet tries to highlight the sacrifice made by lovers.? Does it not tell about our culture where love was intertwined in our lives. Otherwise a poet could not come out with such a love song.

I strongly believe that love is felt and not seen inside the gift boxes or inside a bouquet. That is what I was trying to bring out.

Immediately my friend replied,” Oh! what a loving wife I have got! Let me tell here, that the friend I  was conversing with,  was none other than my loving husband.

Some of you would love to read the poem.

Here it is in my mother tongue Tamil. Read and enjoy.

சுனைவாய்ச் சிறுநீரை எய்தா தென்(று) எண்ணியப்

பிணைமான் இனி துண்ண வேண்டிக்கலைமாத்தன்

கள்ளத்தின் ஊச்சும் சுரமென்பர் காதலர்

உள்ளம் படர்ந்த நெறி’.

This lovely poem was written by the poet  MaranPoraiyanar(மாறன் பொறையனார்)

Another poem also comes to my mind. Let me write about that in my next post. Incidentally that is also a love poem.


Unanswered Prayers –Gifts

prayerSometime or  even manytimes,  in our life  we go through this strange feeling of being neglected by God. Some of our prayers may remain unanswered, even till now.  But all the same, you may also agree with me, if I say that unanswered prayers are blessings of God….. in disguise .

I shall substantiate my view with a small story  which came as a mail forward. The mail forward was in my mother tongue (Tamil).

Here goes the story……

In  south India , there was a temple priest called Sudhakar.  He is incharge of pooja in a temple and did his duties perfectly well and ofcourse, with great devotion. Devotees throng to the temple daily with multitudes of prayers.

Priest Sudhakar, had the habit of talking to God, everyday, as a vent for his  joy or sad  feelings. Normally, he does not get any response from God. Neither did he expect that.

Days rolled by.

One day, as usual, when Sudhakar was talking to God, he casually commented,” Oh Poor God! You seem to be standing in this position, since Iam seeing you. Is it not very tiresome for you to stand like this ?”

To his surprise he had a response that day. The reply came from the God statue,.The voice said , ” Sudhakar, If you are so concerned about my pain ,let us think of interchanging our roles, atleast for a day. As you say it is very boring to be in this posture, for years together. I too need a change. Let me relax by moving up and down the temple. Why don’t we can change our roles? If you agree, let us do that  tomorrow from dawn to dusk.”

Sudhakar, though taken back, agreed to this.

But this role for Sudhakar did not come free. Yes. As you guess it is ” Conditions Apply” . God added,” Look Priest. You should stand just like I do. Come what may .You should never show your expression or respond to my devotees. You should stand with a frozen smile and keep blessing .”

The condition did not seem  a difficult task for Sudhakar.. He agreed. The next day dawned. Sudhakar opened the gates of the temple.

God was waiting for him. He and Sudhakar silently exchanged places. God dressed up like Sudhakar, was going up and down the temple corridor , cleaning the temple, making garlands, cooking prasad etc… Sudhakar, in the role of God statue stood straight, put on an everlasting smile on his face and watching the happenings there.

(From now on let me  call Sudhakar in the role of God as God(S) and the real God as GOD.)

As usual devotees with a variety of prayers started to flow in. Our God(S)  was silently watching all this.

Soon the drama began……

There came a rich business man, with his wish. He bargained with God(S) and dropped in a bundle of currency notes, in the Hundial kept in front of the temple. And he said,” what I dropped in the hundial  is just an advance, God . If my business flourishes, I shall give you more .” ( GOD in in the dress of Sudhakar, laughed to himself thinking “who gives whom?”) After his bargain was over , he left the temple. But, he forgot to take back the cash bag, which he left on the floor of the temple.

God(S), had to stop himself from calling the rich man and ask him to take back his cash bag. The bag contained not only huge amount of cash , but also some gold and diamond jewellery. God(S) felt that his hands are tied.  But the helpless God(S), continued his God act.

Next came a very poor man. He had only a coin to offer and he too closed his eyes and prayed to God, ” God, I have only this coin to offer you. But…… you know, as to how to take care of me and my poverty stricken family.”

With this prayer , he opened his eyes  and immediately the unattended cash bag, caught his attention. He saw it was unattended. He took it and opened it. He saw the bag full of cash and jewellery. He looked around. He saw no one searching for this bag. Looking around, he doubly confirmed,  that no one was looking for the cash bag. He thought, that at last  GOD had answered his prayers. Happily  he took the bag and went away.

Helpless God(S), can do nothing, but to silently watch this also.

After a few minutes there came a ship captain .He prayed for his safe voyage which he was going to start that day. As he was praying, the rich man who lost his cash bag rushed into the temple, with two policemen and said ,” I kept the cash  bag here, but it is not found here now. ”

Immediately, the ship captain, who was standing there, was enquired. He was suspected of having stolen the cash bag. And so he was about to be arrested. Not able to contain himself ,God(S) shouted from inside ” Policeman. No …..Don’t do that. Do not arrest the ship captain. He is innocent . I know who the culprit is.” And told about the poor man who took the cash bag. The richman thanked the God for intervening at the right time, to get back his cash bag.

And there is no need to say that the ship captain was the happiest of all .

Now, God(S) was brimming with pride.. He  said to himself,” I did something even the GOD would not have done. He would have been a silent spectator. But, I did the right thing and saved the ship captain.I answered his prayer. After all I am the God now.  Iam very much satisfied about that.”

The day passed by. It was time for Sudhakar and God to revert back to their original roles.

After switching back roles, the God asked Sudhakar, ” How was your day? ”

Sudhakar proudly replied,”Why do you ask me? You were a witness to everything.  I had done something right isn’t it? You don’t answer everyone’s prayer. But I did. ”

Now the God gave a hearty laugh and said ,” What did I tell you? Did I not ask you to be silent come what may ? Why did you intervene in the drama? ”

Sudhakar now thought,” Instead of applauding me for my act , God seems to find fault with my actions.” And so he said,”Do you mean to say that I should keep quiet when some thing wrong is done in front of my eyes. I saved the ship captain. Was that not right?”

Now the God replied with a thundering laughter.He said,” So you think you saved the ship captain by answering his prayer? Is it? ”

Sudhakar with great confusion looked at the God and asked,” Is there any doubt for you over that?”

God continued. ” Let me explain. What the rich man offered was only a tiny portion of his belongings. Also, all his belongings were not earned by his hard work.. He had cheated somebody to become rich. And  the poor man ,……. he deserves that  cash bag. The poor man will be relieved of poverty and at the same time the rich man’s karma also would have been lessened a little by this charity.”

“See now what you had done by intervening in this matter? ”

Sudhakar then questioned,” That is Ok. But why did you bring the ship captain into the picture. Was he also at fault to get arrested and be behind the bars. ?”

God continued,” Iam coming to that. Ship captain was about to start his voyage. There is going to be a heavy storm on his journey. He will not survive that storm. To save his life, I tried to prevent him from taking this journey, by arresting him. You bungled up the whole thing.”

Sudhakar  became very sad now. With tear filled eyes, he said,” Because of me ship captain is going to die. That makes me sad. Oh! God! Can you please do something and save the captain. And as you know much better than me, why don’t you set right all the things I confused.?”

God patted Sudhakar, smiled  and said,” I shall take care of everything. No worries. ”

And continued,” But always remember that even unanswered prayers are also my blessings.”

“Sometimes  I don’t answer your prayers . True. But that is also, only  to save you. You won’t understand  the  divine secret lying behind unanswered prayers.”

Sudhakar with folded hands thanked God and begged forgiveness.

God blessed Sudhakar and froze himself, back into a statue .

After reading this story, now you would also agree with my post title. It is we, who should take things in the right stride, and get along. God is always by our side, watching things and  intervening at the right moments. If He does not intervene , then that is also in our best interests.

WIth Him, by our side to guide us,  let us transform , challenges–into success stories.



A Tribute To The Rocket Scientist.

Kalaam-quotes_4 When our nation was in turmoil and confusion prevailed among the youth there came a saviour who sowed the seeds of confidence in the young minds.

“If your dreams should come true, first you should be a dreamer ” his quotes  had a great effect  among our youth. He himself must have been a dreamer in youth.  He dreamt of India  achieving  the Super Power status. The day, seeing his dream coming true is not far away.

He himself initiated the “India-super power”project by launching  satellites. He is,  no doubt , fondly called as the  Rocket scientist.

Yes.He also rose to the highest post in public life. But his height is still more in our minds and hearts. This cannot be measured by any scale.

Yesterday night, most of us would have lost our sleep, feeling insecured , with  this  guiding soul departing .

From his life we learnt a great lesson , that even  in public life,  we can still remain uninfected by dirty politics, corruption etc……

Also gave hope that we can do not only governance , but also service assuming   government office.

Many awards conferred on him took pride in adorning his cap.

” Caste , creed, religion, language ” are the words missing in his personal dictionary. Crossing all these barriers, he spread the message of love , to one and all. As a teacher himself, his love for the student fraternity is exemplary.May be, it his love for students and his confidence in them, , made him to breathe his last when he was amongst  them.

We can feel proud that this great man lived amongst us. The air he breathed reverberates ” Dreams Come True.” Let us strive to achieve that.

My respects to the departed soul.

” May his soul rest in peace.”

We Shall Get Back To You


Most of us would have had the experience of finding a home for rent.You should have your own taste  of the hardships you faced when finding a home to live in.And  we also think that normally there would not be much hardships if it comes to renting out your home.If you are of that view, then most likely you might change your view after reading this post.

It all started when we decided to get settled in Bangalore with our son , as age had started to tell on us.That left with no option, but to rent  out our ancestral home before leaving for Bangalore. Once we  decided that, we immediately got in touch with our friends and relatives  to see  if anybody was interested. Immediately one of my husband’s friends agreed upon. We thought the matter ended there. We need not worry about our ancestral home which stood in the heart of the city.

I told myself that the home will be in safe hands . And with these thoughts running in my mind I started upon my home shifting works. But my peace did not last long. As the friend who said wanted the house , now went back on his words citing various reasons. That left us with the job of  looking for a good tenant.

The first thing we did was to approach a local broker to find a tenant. He readily agreed upon. Immediately in the afternoon he brought one person. The person said he was a builder . He was satisfied and agreed upon our terms and conditions. But we needed time to decide and said we shall call him back

.To this offer my husband said , ” This person will not have a regular income. Will he be able to pay the rent every month? Will he vacate as and when we require the home? ” Why so many confusions? Let us reject this offer we decided. After all our home is in  a place where the homes go for rent , like hot cakes. So we should be  getting  a better tenant.

A day passed by , then a person came and looked around the house . We looked at his face  for a  response. Now It was his turn to say ,” I will get back to you soon. ”

Two or more days passed by without anything turning fruitful .Our time to move to Bangalore was getting closer. So we thought of putting up an advertisement in a local daily , as well as in internet. And so we did.

Now the responses were multifold. People started pouring in on that Saturday. I started to make people get around the home. I started to show them “ This is the verandah, hall, bedroom with attached bath,………….”  At least around 20 or 25 people came to visit the home that day. We were really happy at the response. But of what use? I thought we should have fixed  one by this time. But many promised to get back to us but not one responded. That started to nibble us . Why? What is wrong with our home.?

Right in the heart of the city , vast, spacious well-lit rooms ,  with trees around to give shade and wind….But something is missing. What that could it be? Are we quoting a higher rent?……

The next person came and said the usual answer,” I shall get back yo you .” We stopped him.Sensing he was a genuine tenant I said ,” We can negotiate on the rent” His answer cleared our confusion. He said ” Madam , This is an old-fashioned house. My wife would prefer a modern home . we won’t mind even if it is a flat. “

I said,” This might be an old-fashioned house. But we have all the modern amenities here.”

For this he replied,” Madam, everything is fine with the home. The rent is also ok. But your house plan is not up-to-date. It is an old plan.Like…… now the fashion is to have  an open kitchen….things like that are missing.    Added to all this the home is not Vasthu Compliant.” and he also consoled us saying “Don’t lose heart. There are people who would really wish to live in this type of home.” I had to sympathise myself and called my grandma in heaven,” Grandma , Did you hear him? But don’t be depressed by these remarks.Let all these persons say anything they want. But I love the home you built .”

On that day after repeating the words this is verandah, hall……etc….I had byhearted these words and started to blabber the same in sleep ,  this is verandah, hall ….etc….. in sleep.  My husband had to wake me up and console me “ Dear, Don’t worry . We are sure to get a good tenant. Have a good sleep.”.

Next day around 5.00 am  a phone call woke me up. It was once again by a home seeker( prospective tenant  we thought). But so early ….. It is strange that one would look for a home in this early hours .He asked me the direction to our home and walked into our home exactly  fifteen minutes later. He and his family(?)  rushed in. As a broken gramophone record I started ,” This is  verandah, this is a ………” whereupon that person stopped me. He said,” there is no need to look at the home. It is in a locality where  all would envy . Take this token advance and stretched his hand full of currency notes.”

Though my heart was full of joy on finding a tenant ,somewhere in my brain an alarm bell rang. The same alarm bell must have alerted my husband too. He said,” Mr. X  . Let us first talk about the rent, advance etc……”.

Immediately Mr. x retorted back.” Look I am a  very busy person. I don’t have time to sit and talk. My only condition is I need the house immediately. That is today …….Come on. Take the money.”

Now the alarm bell sound deafened my ears.In chorus, me and my husband said,” Sorry sir. We can understand your emergency. But already yesterday we had promised someone who came to fix the home. He said that he would be coming to give an advance in a few minutes from now on.And also we cannot vacate the house today itself.”

Just to  help us in such a situation,  my cell phone started to ring . I looked into the screen and found Kala calling.( my domestic help). After talking over the phone in a husky tone ,I looked at my husband and said, “ Here he is. He says he is on the way to come and pay the advance.”

Even after that, Mr. X tried to convince us  with enhanced rent. Suspecting a foul play, we somehow managed to get rid of him. Looking at all this my mother started praying” Angalmma,(goddess)Thaye…… Please send one good tenant to our home. I will offer two coconuts .”( A good deal)

Though my husband also had his worry over this issue, he did not lose his sense of humour.He said,” We are going through a process like finding a bridegroom for our daughter. Actually that went off smoothly with no hassles.”

I should say something about our home. Living in the home  we had flourished . May be our ancestors were not rich , but not poor. But then, the coming generations  had more than enough. Every sibling had a professional degree behind their names , cars , …… flew  around the globe, not only officially, but also for  a holiday .

Oh! .But still our home was not Vasthu Compliant.

An old-fashioned too, with so much of natural light and air.

Now my mother said,” Why don’t we call the first person who was ready to take the home for rent.  She added “When compared with others he looked OK.”

“Do you mean the one who said he was a builder? ” I asked and turned towards my husband and said,” yes dear . what do you say ? Shall we call him  and fix?”

My husband though a little confused nodded in affirmative.

Immediately, I scanned the notebook and found his number .Gave a ring to him.

“ Hullo”

“ Yes Madam. Who are you?”

“ Sir I am the owner of the house to which you came last Friday and offered to take for rent.Are you still interested? ”

“ Yes madam. But that was last week. After that I did not hear from you. So I fixed another home and also have given advance.”

“ Oh! We decided to let you the home. But that is ok . We shall look for some other person.”

“ Madam ,Please wait . Since I am interested in living in your home , I think I can reconsider my decision. Anyway me and my friend will come and talk to you in person.”

A little relieved, we went on with our chores. The next day morning the builder along with his friend walked in promptly.

His friend said ,” Let me also look at the home.”

Though a little confused, I allowed his friend to have a look.

His friend walked  up and down the house and touched the wall and said,” really Strong”.

I said ,” We are just renting the home. We are not selling it.”

The builder hushed me up and in a low tone said,” My friend should be satisfied.”

I asked him,” Why he should be satisfied? You are going to take for rent.Right?”

Overhearing our conversation the friend of the builder said,” OK Madam, I shall clarify you now . Only my friend(builder) is  going to live here. You need not have any doubt over this. But the problem is that he is facing a financial crisis, So,I am going to finance him till his situations gets better.”

“What? “ My husband literally shouted.

“ Financier for House Rent! “  I have never heard of.

Now the financier added ,” My friend thinks that if he comes to this home he is sure to become successful. I shall pay the rent for him. He is the tenant but I am the financier for the rent.”

We stood speechless.

what came to my mind was the joke in the Tamil movie “Padayappa “ where in Mr. Rajinikanth looking at Mr. Senthil says, “ He is the bridegroom. But his dress is mine.”

Feel like having a good laugh? Yes we too had a good laugh after sending the builder saying the same sentence” We shall get back to you.”

But then you must be eager to know if we had rented the house. By then one of our relatives wanted the house for a short period, so that it would be easy for their medical treatment. So they are residing there now.

What a great relief! ( For the time being)

My ordeal stands suspended for the time being. Again when I start this tenant seeking venture , I am sure to come across some more interesting experiences. I shall record them too….

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Lessons of life.

This rare conversation between swami Vivekananda and his Guru Sri Ramkarishna Paramahamsar  reached me as a mail forward. The conversation sure will answer so many queries that run through your mind. I got mine.

So go ahead and read……

vivekSwami Vivekananda:- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.

Swami Vivekananda:- Why has life become complicated now?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Stop analyzing life.. It makes it complicated. Just live it.

Swami Vivekananda:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

Swami Vivekananda:- Why do good people always suffer?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer. With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

Swami Vivekananda:- You mean to say such experience is useful?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Swami Vivekananda:- Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

Swami Vivekananda:- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Swami Vivekananda:- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Swami Vivekananda:- What surprises you about people?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- When they suffer they ask, “why me?” When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”

Swami Vivekananda:- How can I get the best out of life?
Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

Swami Vivekananda:- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

Ramakrishna Paramahamsa:- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Let me thank the sender of this precious mail.                                        “Thankyou my friend.”

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Ma I love you

When i was surfing the net yesterday I stumbled upon this post of my friend Mrs. RanjaniNarayanan. With her kind permission Iam posting this article here. Iam sure readers will be moved as Iam.
Thankyou Ranjani for the article.
Ranjani Narayanan says,
I got this from an email forward:
When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.
You thanked her by running away when she called.
When you were 3, she made all your meals with love.
You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.
When you were 4, she gave you some crayons.
You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.
When you were 5, she dressed you for the holidays.
You thanked her by plopping into the nearest puddle.

When you were 6, she walked you to school.
You thanked her by screaming, “I’M NOT GOING!”

When you were 7, she bought you a baseball.
You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbour’s window.

When you were 8, she handed you an ice cream.
You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9, she paid for piano lessons.
You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10, she drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastic to
One birthday party after another.
You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11, she took you and your friends to the movies.
You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

When you were 12, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

When you were 13, she suggested a haircut.
You thanked by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.
You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug.
You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to drive her car.
You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.
You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your school graduation.
You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus, carried your bags.
You thanked by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn’t be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing any one.
You thanked by saying “It’s none of your business”.

When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.
You thanked her by saying “I don’t want to be like you”.

When you were 22, she hugged at your college graduation.
You thanked her by asking whether she could sponsor for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.
You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24, she met your fiancé’ and asked your plans for the future.
You thanked by glaring and growling, “Muuhh-there, please!”.

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you.
You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby. 
You thanked her by telling her, “Things are different now.”

When you were 40, she called you to remind you of a relative’s birthday.
You thanked her by saying that you were “really busy right now.”

When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.
You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then, one day, she quietly died.
And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on YOUR HEART.


smoke your way to heaven



As usual, I was sipping my early morning coffee, while my eyes were wandering through the daily newspaper . Picture of a little girl seeking alms caught my attention. i started reading the news accompanying the picture. It is about a little girl aged about 12  seeking alms in signal junctions.Let me narrate .

When the signal turned to red, the new  glittering red car came to a screeching stop. Immediately, from somewhere this girl aged 12 rushed towards the car with full hopes that people inside the car have a charitable attitude.

She knocked the glass window.. The car owner irritated, brought down the window  . The cigarette  smoke as though waiting to get freedom,  escaped through the window. The little girl’s eyes scanned  the car. The cigarette between the fingers of the owner and a beautiful girl of the same age as hers , in the back seat did not escape her eyes.

Now, the  girl started pleading the car owner not for alms ,but said,” Sir, even if you don’t give me alms it is O.K. But Please don’t give your beautiful daughter a life as mine. Though I don’t belong to a rich family, we did lead a decent life as long as my dad was alive. But because of this smoking habit he  died  leaving us , only to beg for food.”  With these words, she immediately found her way to the next car.

The car owner was speechless.

The startling truth slammed the car owner. Do you think, he will ever touch the cigarette buds with his hands?

After reading this I started to think about this evil habit smoking. I have seen so many people letting out swirls of smoke .

I always used to wonder what makes people smoke? Some say, it gives them pleasure,   it relieves them from stress. And so on…..

The pathetic situation now is  even women in India have started the smoking habit. Some say, these days  it is inevitable and so they started smoking.

Oh! If you have a will to avoid smoking, you can always find a way to move away from that. where there is a will there will be a way.

If they really know how bad it  affects your health , smokers will just hate cigarettes .A recent study says smoking causes even lung cancer.

I would like to share the hardships a celibrity faced , in his sixties, for smoking in his yesteryears.

He says that even after knowing that nicotine in cigarettes is sure to affect the nervous system, I said to myself ” Oh! This alert is not for me. My nervous system is not going to be affected. Nicotene will not cause any harm to my lungs .”  and continued with my smoking habit.”

After some years , suddenly  it dawned on him that he should quit smoking . And so he did. For ten years everything went fine. But his yesteryear mistakes did not allow him to lead a peaceful and a healthy life when he was on the threshold of old age. Yes, blocks started developing in his heart, not once  and  he had to undergo  two bye passes. The doctors said all this was due to his early age smoking habit. But he somehow  saw through the game.

But that was not all the gift the cigarette gave. Though he moved away from this evil habit , the effects of forgotten habit started to tell on him. Sometimes as we are bashed more and more   when we are weak, this habit also started to give more and more trouble in his sixties when the body was weak and  started to show signs of aging.

Under the able guidance of his Guru , this person was  doing yoga, doing regular walking exercise, practising  Pranayama ……etc……

But, the lungs did not forget the cigarettes. They had collected and stored  the nicotene which he sent inside during his young age. This stored nicotene started  to show its presence , in his sixties. They all turned into flum and prevented the lungs from doing their job.

Now this sure he says caused him great trouble. There was no pain, no fever, no other trouble . agreed. But pulling in oxygen and pushing out Carbondioxide was a Herculean task. When breathing went unnoticed for everyone  he had to struggle to do this.

He says , there were permanently two or three oxygen cylinders at home.Without Oxygen cylinders support , he could not  stay even for a few minutes. Obviously, eating was another task for him for he has to eat only removing Oxygen support. Think of talking then…..

With all these struggles to breathe he says, he was also worried about his teenaged children’s future.  He was terribly sick and struggled to breathe.  Not only he struggled to breathe his  family suffocated ,of worries over his health.

Slowly and slowly he recovered.  Life had taught him a lesson about cigarettes , but in a  hardest way.  He also adds to his writing that youngsters should stay away from this habit.

Will smokers listen to his words or learn a lesson from his life.?Will they quit smoking?

Smart ones will learn from others mistakes . Will they?

What flashed in me was , If a person decides to light his cigarette, he is not smoking the cigarette, he is smoking away  his family’s , in particular his children’s health, wealth and prosperity.

Is that not true?



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Beauty of judgement

Some years back, one day

Looking at her younger  brother, my little  daughter asked, ” why can’t this girl be our mom? ”

Curious to know what was going on, I peeped into the room where my two little ones were playing . They had a weekly magazine in their hand. My little daughter was pointing to a Kollywood actress and was waiting approval from her little brother.

My son, simply nodded and approved his sister’s choice.

What are they going to do now? I eagerly awaited their next action.( they did not notice me listening to them)

Then both of them ran towards their dad sitting in the hall with his face buried inside the daily paper.

I followed them silently.

” Dad” shouted both in chorus.

Their dad peeped outside from the  daily looked towards them and asked ,” what? ”

” Dad, Look at this aunty in this photo. She is looking so beautiful and prettier than our mom.” And stopped.

” So……..” My husband continued…..

” Why don’t we make this aunty,  our mom? ”

I was anxious to know my husband’s reaction to this question.

First he bursted into a big laughter .then he said,” But why ? Your mom also looks good. ”

” No. Not this much dad. Look at this aunty. Look at her hair. Her dress, her makeup…..her lipstick…..She is really good. ” with a glow in her eyes my daughter replied.

Though we enjoyed the moment, it did send us a message as to how we should bring up the kids. Thereafter, whenever opportunity arose, I never refrained from driving into them the message,” Looks alone cannot be a deciding factor for judging a person. At times, it can also be deceptive .”

And, now I can proudly say that I had done my job.

I had finished my job, but some others have not finished. Yes, Iam  talking about the persons who hurl abuses at people , ridiculing them  for their looks.

When will they stop?No. They will not.  I could point one . All of us watch TV.. This effective  media runs advertisements  that using a cream, soap, powder enhances your physical beauty and a girl with physical beauty wins an interview.This gives a feeling that  her character, attitude, confidence level, her education…… everything will be  brushed under the carpet  and her physical beauty alone is important . This is  an abuse for one who fails the  interview.

What made them think that way?. Something pleasant to our eyes make us happy.True. It makes us even say ” wow “. But if the girl exhibits courage and confidence and lacks the looks ,will she not succeed. ?  If she is kind enough without looks will she not be appreciated. Questions like this que up in my mind. I don’t find an answer.

Iam reminded of  beauty tips  from a Hollywood actress . Many of us are aware of the famous super duper hit  film,” My Fair Lady.” The movie’s heroine Ms. Audrey Hepburn gives her beauty tips. You are in for a surprise if you read it. Here it is,


Let us judge people  based not  on their physical appearance , but giving due weightage to  their confidence levels,  for their attitudes, for their knowledge and other virtues. That will be a beautiful judgement. I know you will agree with me.

Let us also remember that if someone ridicules us for our looks, we can be assured that  we  possess  virtues  which they don’t have. Trust me. It is true.


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